Occasional Confession 1

Occasional confessions will be quick hits, little things I need to get off my chest, or that seem interesting, or funny, or likely to produce additional insight once I've placed them into the semi-public domaine intersubjectif of the confessional.

[For how long, I wonder, will I maintain this confessional conceit?]

Occasional Confession: I have for many years kept a written list of all the women with whom I've had any sort of sexual encounter. I did this initially because a bunch of friends (men and women) were comparing notes many years ago (college? just after college?) and I was surprised that I hadn't had genital intercourse with more women. On the other hand, I had had a lot more clearly "sexual" but non-genital experiences than the other people present.

When you factor the myriad forms of play available under the rubric of BDSM, deciding what counts as "sex" gets interesting.

I describe it this way: I've been sexual with a lot of women in my life, though I've only had sexual intercourse as most people define it with around 12 [quickly, from memory: R, J, L, K, I, L, V, H, N, S, C, R, K]. Keeping the list is like a hedge against old age and the failure of memory. I know it will come in handy in relation to this blog.